Dear Mom, We Need You
By: Ronke Alao
In a few days, we will be celebrating mother's day in the U.S and so many other countries of the world. Growing up as a little girl in Nigeria, I had not very many memories of mother's day. I do however remember the few times that we celebrated in church. It was more of a church tradition back then or so I thought. We kids would have flowers handed to us by the children's department of the church and go to the adult church where we would hand it to the women in church. It didn't matter whether they had birthed a child or not. Every woman got a flower. There was always something precious about those moments.
What makes mothers so special?
Over the years, mothers have been known to sacrifice their own wants and desires for their families. It could be putting a career on hold to raise their young children or working hard and long hours to put their children through school especially when the father is absent from the child(ren)'s live(s).
Mothers have played the role of doctor, nurse, teacher, counsellor, homemaker, clothmaker, chef, therapist and minister in children's lives.
As the youngest child and only girl in my family, I still have fond memories of my mom. Even though she had health issues by the time I was about 9 or 10 years old, had a stroke when I was a teenager and passed away just before I finished college, I still cherish the few years in which I had her. I didn't have the close relationship that daughters usually have with their moms right around teen age. I also didn't the privilege of having her guide me through the often confusing process of going from adolescence to young adulthood, (this was mostly due to her health challenges).
Through it all, the memories I have about her and hold dear are the ones I had with her growing up. The ones where she would put her work aside and help me with my school work. The ones where she would attend every dance, drama or recital I had in elementary school. The homecooked meal she would bring me when I stayed at the boarding house. Yes, those kind of memories still bring a smile to my face.
Stories abound of moms who take multiple jobs, even jobs that sound odd for women or tend to require the strength of a man, just so they can give their children the life they never had. My heart especially goes out to single moms. If you are a single mom, please know that you are not alone, rely on God's love and strength and He will hlep you raise your child in wisdom.
Moms Who Fight On Their Knees
There are great men and women whom we all admire – artists , leaders, CEOs of highly successful companies, ministers and president. People we think of as icons. Unknown to many of us, these people's successes can be attributed to their mothers in some way. There are mothers who lead an uneventful life so to say. They fight in the place of prayer for their children. They never cease to pray for their children's growth, development, education, career and marriage. These moms are the real heroes.
Moms Are Pillars
They are the ones we run to for warmth and security as babies.
They take a house and make it a home.
They are often the first teacher in a child's life.
They are the pillars behind the strength of a strong society.
Mothers, please know that whatever you do – from changing countless diapers to homeschooling, from cooking and cleaning to being buried in a ton of dirty laundry – it all counts in the larger society.
You are in a position of strong influence, don't underestimate that. You do matter, a lot.
We at Everywoman's Heart appreciate your strength and resilience.
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Ronke Alao is a writer who gives time-tested and simple principles to help women enjoy their relationships and marriages. Her methods teaches women how to get past the confusion of dating and getting to the place where they really have fulfilling relationships and marriage.
She is known for her ‘up-close and personal’ style of getting her message across and drawing lessons from her personal experience. She is married to her best friend, Wale, who is her biggest cheerleader. Her online newsletter, EveryWoman’s Heart, is read in over 72 countries.